Have you ever wanted to sit down and write, but just couldn’t? Not because you didn’t care, but because life felt heavier than words.That’s how this pause began.Not with a decision or a plan. Just with days that asked for more than I had to give. Writing stayed in the background, waiting quietly, while attention went elsewhere.
Then January arrived with something unexpected. An endometriosis cyst. Medication followed, along with side effects, low energy, foggy mornings, and the kind of tiredness that sleep doesn’t fix. Writing, which once felt like comfort, started feeling like effort. And you know how your body understands before your mind catches up? This was one of those moments.
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The pressure to always show up as a mom blogger
There’s an unspoken rule in the online world that says if you stop showing up, you’re falling behind. Traffic drops, numbers change, algorithms move on, and slowly self-doubt starts whispering. Is it too late now? Does anyone still read? Should this even continue?
What often gets ignored is that healing takes energy, and parenting older kids takes presence. Life doesn’t pause just because a motherhood blog exists. Stepping back from blogging doesn’t mean giving up. Sometimes, it simply means choosing wisely.
What silence teaches during a blogging break
This break taught me things constant posting never does. It taught me to listen to my body instead of pushing through. It reminded me that rest isn’t laziness and slowing down isn’t failure. It also brought clarity about what truly deserves space and attention when energy is limited.
This break wasn’t just about stepping away from blogging. It quietly reshaped how health, motherhood, and priorities were seen. And when writing finds its way back after a pause, it tends to be gentler, deeper, and far more honest.
How parenting changes as children grow
Messymom was never about picture-perfect motherhood. It’s about the real, messy side. Parenting tween and teens is a different mess, quieter, deeper, and far more emotional.
There’s less running around and more worrying, fewer scraped knees and more silent moods, more exams, expectations, and internal pressure. This phase asks parents to step back while staying close, to trust more, to talk less, and to listen better. These moments do not make great social media content. They shape families in powerful ways. They deserve to be written about.
Why coming back to blogging still matters
Not because of traffic, domain authority, or how consistency looks on paper. Coming back matters because stories don’t expire. Someone, somewhere, is searching quietly for reassurance. They need a reminder that pauses are normal. Health comes first. Parenting seasons shift. It’s okay to return to blogging after a break.
A mother reading this late at night doesn’t care how perfect a blog looks. She cares whether it feels real. That has always been the heart of Messymom.
What to expect from Messymom going ahead
This space won’t promise daily posts or constant updates. What it will offer is honesty. Stories shaped by real life. Thoughts on parenting tweens and teens without panic. Conversations around mental health without preaching. Reflections on motherhood, healing, rest, and growth.
Some posts will be practical. Some reflective. Some simply comforting. All written at a pace that respects life.
Gentle reminder for anyone returning after a break
If you’ve stepped away from something you once loved, it doesn’t mean you failed. It might mean you were healing, supporting your children through exams, or simply living through a demanding season. Returning doesn’t need a grand announcement. It only needs intention.
This blog post is part of ‘Blogaberry Dazzle’ hosted by Cindy D’Silva and Noor Anand Chawla in collaboration with Cerebration – Think with body, mind & soul
Your words are so relatable Anjali! As a Mom and as a blogger who started quite late I can totally understand the struggle and self doubt.
What an honest post! This is what we all need to always be reminded about. Pause, if you must. You can always come back. The world, algorithms, and content can wait. But time cannot. When growing up children need us to be there with them quietly, inspiring them with just our presence, that should definitely take priority, else it is an opportunity missed for a lifetime. Well done, Anjali.
I wish more people learn what you have expressed so well here. Life is messy, just like you say. Trying to fit it into numbers (DA authority, traffic, bmr, weight vs height, etc) are all man made metrics that change as the society and concerned institutions please is like asking human beings to become robots. Finding our inner balance is far more important, i think. It feels so nice to hear another person getting this key aspect right. May you always find the strength and energy to pause and reflect to add value to your life and those of your loved ones.
Honest posts from a mom blogger is something I blog for, Anjali! And trust me, they’re quite rare. I can totally relate with your worrying, parenting challenges and need for a break. That happens with me too. We’re human after all. No matter how long you decide to keep away, know that we’ll be here to share your journey. Cheers!
This spoke to me too. Worry is keeping me from writing . This gave me pause and time to reflect too . I completely agree that grown up children need us albeit differently
I did not write for a while. Glad I got back to blogging. Honest and authentic content would always get to the audience.
We all go through this phase,Anjali.In 2024, I was devastated when I couldn’t write for many months. Now I take it in my stride and write when I feel like. No pressure, just a pause, being mindful and listening to my mental state.
This was so relatable! Returning to blogging after a break can feel intimidating, but your honest reflections make it seem hopeful and refreshing. Thanks for reminding us that creative pauses are part of the journey too.
I really appreciated your honesty about stepping back and coming back again. It reminded me that creative rhythms shift and it’s okay to return when you’re truly ready—so inspiring and gentle.
So honest, heartfelt, and vulnerable. I’m glad you took that break and paused for a bit. Take care, Anjali. And I hope the endometriosis cyst is healed now.
Break doesn’t mean a failure. Yes, we all need to keep this in mind. Many times, we even keep writing but something or the other doesn’t allow us to take that extra time to post what we have written. Or, sometimes, it’s not even written for the audiance. There are some scribbles written only for our eyes only; Some personal ramblings. We all need those personal notes as well.
While reading your post, I just could see myself! Like a mirror! Yes, it is diffucult to get back to blogging after kids and the responsibilities. But for me it also felt nice that I could have a place of my own to record and say what I feel
Blogging is important, however you and your health are more important. So sorry that things haven’t been going your way lately. I am sure you will pick up where you left off, as will your blog. Welcome back!
Thank you for sharing your honest views. Take care f yourself too.
Anjali perhaps I am right now going with the phase of slow blogging. Too much work pressure, young child and being not so young mom … I find it hard to concentrate and write and so I am preferring doing less blogging but not stopping at all. Its important to keep pace with time, take care of self and child besides the overall responsibilities of life. I am considering it as a phase which is making me more focussed and concentrate better towards life as a whole.
I found your post so relatable. After a 3-year break, the return to blogging seemed quite challenging, but somehow it happened. Welcome back again.
I really enjoyed reading about your return to blogging and how you’re honoring your pace and passion it felt like a warm welcome back into creative space and reminded me that coming back after a pause can be brave inspiring and full of joy.
I resonate with so much of what you say and feel. Taking a break, taking a pause is sometimes the very best thing you can do for your blog and for yourself.
Welcome back!! And I am looking forward to read more of your thoughts!!
I loved the idea that blogging waits, but growth doesn’t. Life shifts, priorities change. That doesn’t erase the writer in you.