Friend: Don’t judge me when I complain about motherhood

Dear friend, don’t judge me when I complain about motherhood to you over the phone. Being a mother is like joining a club where we share our maternal experiences and anecdotes just like any other. But it’s also a first-hand understanding of how many mothers feel and think.

“Every mother has a unique story to tell. She has traversed a difficult route.”

However, if you don’t yet have children, it can be difficult to understand some of the things that those of us who are already mothers do, such as vocalizing how exhausted we are. So this letter is to friends who need to hear it because it is more than just a complaint.

Friend, when I complain about motherhood …

When I complain about motherhood, It’s not because I don’t like being a mom or I’m sorry. It’s also not because I don’t love my children or am dissatisfied with my life. The path I chose is not always easy, and as with any job, there comes a point where I feel tired.

I know that it can be difficult for you to understand, not being in my place. The truth is that although I love being a mother and I greatly enjoy the benefits that life with children has, motherhood is wonderful, but still sometimes feel exhausted and dazed.

I’m constantly giving – my time, my thoughts, my body, and my energy. And when I dare to admit I’m tired, I’m looked down on, judged, and misunderstood.

“Motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing.” – Ricki Lake.

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Good days and bad days

There will be good and bad days for me. There are days when I believe that motherhood is the best thing in the world, to the point where I could try to persuade you that you have children or are encouraged to get pregnant before the time you intend to do so.

But as you know, I like to talk about motherhood realistically, and while being a mom is an incredible experience, it also has its not-so-pretty side. To be honest with you, some days I feel like a robot that barely charges at night and wakes up every morning to run the same exact course.

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On some days, I feel like the world’s worst mother. On other days, I feel like a failure because I believe I’m not doing things correctly. And there are times when I feel so exhausted from being a mother that I want to flee. That’s when you’ll hear me whine.

But don’t be afraid! When I complain about motherhood, it is not because I regret having children, nor am I trying to persuade you not to have them. I simply have enough self-confidence to confide in you and express some of the emotions that can overwhelm me at times.

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So please, if you ever see me tired or complaining about my children, don’t take it the wrong way or panic. I’m just a tired mom, looking for a little empathy with my friend that I love so much.